Lifes "Surprises"

Some surprises are good, some are bad, and some things shouldn't be a surprise.  Disappointment only comes when you allow it, so why allow it?  Life can be an experience for the better or worse.  As long as you don't allow your heart to be hurt by things that SHOULDN'T surprise you, you will be okay.  You can't change people, or events.  You can't stop the bad, or the inevitable.  The only thing you CAN do, is have control over how you let things effect your life, for good or bad.  Only focus on what you can control, the rest just needs to be shrugged off, and forgotten.  If it's not beneficial to you, what impact could it possibly hold that gives you reason to allow YOURSELF unhappiness?  Hold on to what really matters.